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How to tell your kids that you’re getting a divorce

On Behalf of | Aug 22, 2023 | Divorce, Family Law

Breaking the news of divorce to your children can be one of the hardest aspects of your marriage dissolution. This is especially true if you’ve successfully shielded your children from your marital disharmony.

As you prepare to talk to your children about your impending divorce, you might be worried about their reaction, and rightfully so. After all, news of divorce can crumble their sense of stability and threaten your relationship with them. But you might be able to dampen the impact.

Tips for telling your children that you’re getting a divorce

Although there’s sure to be a reaction from your children when you tell them about your divorce, you can’t avoid it. In the end, your divorce might be good for them, too. But breaking the news of divorce is still going to be tough. Here are some tips that you can use to hopefully make the process easier while minimizing the impact on your kids:

  • Ensure that you and your spouse both share the news in a united front so that your children don’t view you as the one responsible for shattering the stability that they have.
  • Identify the parts of your children’s lives that won’t change post-divorce so that they can retain some normalcy and stability in this chaotic time.
  • Reassure your children that they aren’t to blame for the divorce and that you love them.
  • Encourage your children to ask questions and be honest with your answers.
  • Don’t play the blame game, as doing so will just create more tension, taint your child’s view of you and their other parent, and breed resentment.
  • Understand that your children are going to exhibit strong emotions and be willing to help them identify and accept those feelings by validating them.

Be prepared going into your divorce

As hard as it may be, telling your children about divorce is just one of the many steps that you’ll have to take to untangle your marriage and move on to the next chapter of your life. As scary as that may sound, the process may not be as bad as you fear. This is especially true if you’re able to adequately prepare for the road ahead.

Therefore, don’t skimp on preparing your divorce case, and be ready to seek out the help, guidance, and support that you may need to successfully get through the process.